Applied Happiness 101

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I recently applied some techniques on how to be and stay happy, even through stressful times. I overheard my boss having a lengthy argument with an auditor on one of my arbitration files. After she got off the line, she came to my cubicle to tell me a newly hired auditor didn’t understand my arbitration arguments and gave me a poor audit.

In the past, this is something that would have instantly sent me into a tailspin. I’d have to first complain to coworkers over how wrong and unfair it was. I would then internalize it and question all my decisions after hearing that kind of news. Then, I’d slip into a funk for a few days. Meanwhile, the negative funk I’d find myself in would color my present and future experiences with negativity and doubt.

Yesterday, I chose not to go down the path of negativity and refrained from telling a woeful story to friends and co-workers. I remembered that one audit doesn’t define me as a person or an employee. I found solace in how my manager really went to bat for me, and I realized she knew the truth of who I am, so of course I needed to remember the truth of who I am. I prayed for God to reveal to me the jewels in the rough of this experience. I began to say affirmations, affirming the truth of who I am and why I’m here. I did allow myself a few moments to feel upset at the news. But, here’s where it got magical – I began to envision me being on the other side of the situation, smiling and at peace. I went home for the day and focused on other things.

Today, I went to my manager’s desk to thank her again for her support. She told me she met up with management and the head of auditing department yesterday. The head of the auditing department reviewed my manager’s concerns and they all agreed that my handling in the case was solid, but there were issues with the overall handling of the claim that didn’t involve me that had to be noted in the audit. As it turns out, it was a holistic review and not specific to just my handling. My manager said she knows how I take pride in my work product and that she had to fight for what’s right. She was able to get the auditors to see I creatively argued the case, considering what little evidence I had to work with. The auditors eventually raised the scoring up on the review. The auditors and management even have a bet on the outcome of the arbitration – loser buys the other lunch!

In those moments, I could instantly see the jewels.

Here are the jewels:

  • I learned my manager thought highly of me and my work and was ready to defend me – other managers may not do the same.
  • I learned I could choose how to feel in moments of disappointment. I prevented a tailspin that would take me days to recover from.
  • I didn’t overreact, which was critical, because in the past, I would blow up over audit results and it felt wonderful to keep my cool.
  • Had I overreacted, I may not have been in a place to appreciate what unfolded after yesterday’s news.
  • I could have started down the tract of my company doesn’t appreciate me, or that new auditor is a real pill, but today, it feels better to stay in the positive.
  • I remembered I AM a divine creature, and my peace is something to protect.
  • I deliberately created my future by envisioning how I wanted to feel the next day. The Universe obliged.
  • I remembered the truth. I remembered that audits are to show how we’re doing as a company and this reminded me to not take it personal and it really is for the good of our company.
  • Gratitude and appreciation goes a long way. I found what I could be grateful for in the moments following the news, and that helped me to remain in a place of allowing, instead of going into a place of resistance.

We have the power to always reclaim our happiness and peace. I have grown. Yesterday showed me that through prayer, affirmations and shaking the lies and negativity out of the situation, I was able to ride this wave, with ease and grace. I look forward to practicing more of the spiritual principles, because they really work!

~Your Curator of all things Inspirational, Kimberly Jo Cooley

Being Creative Outside of Work Makes You Better at Your Job

I know my outside writing interests have greatly shaped me into a better employee. As creative people, are you finding that your creative pursuits makes you better at your job?

Bohemian Decor From Etsy

Here’s a list of curated Bohemian accessories for the home, from the folks at Etsy.com.

Image courtesy of https://www.etsy.com/listing/128342407/. Abalone bowl – 4 to 5 inches, $7

Image courtesy of https://www.etsy.com/listing/176573580/modern-antler-art-print-teal-gold-yellow. Various sizes, 8 x 10 $38. For those who love antlers, but hate the cruelty towards animals.

Image courtesy of https://www.etsy.com/listing/164866735/. Throw pillow, 20×20, $43

Image courtesy of https://www.etsy.com/listing/124619228/gypsy-girl-stretched-canvas-print-large. Reminiscent of the prints my parents had in their own home during the 1970s.

~Your Curator of all Things Beautiful, Kimberly Jo Cooley

 

The Happy Factor

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Image courtesy of Thanamat, published on 08 October 2012 Stock Image – image ID: 100105664

Chances are, you’ve heard Pharrell Williams “Happy” song one, two, or 100 times and either love or hate the song. It seems an equal amount of people who love or loathe the song and I can’t help but wonder if it’s just more than the song being played over and over or if there’s an underlying consciousness that is driving some people to feel a certain way towards the entire subject of the condition called happiness.

Pharrell sat down on Oprah Prime on the OWN Network for an interview on Sunday, April 14, 2014. He was moved to tears over how his song had touched many people, and it gave me goose bumps. He loves what he does, making music that not only moves him, but moves others, too. He is a shining example of happiness.

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Constance Arnold had author, Jonathan Robinson on her show, titled, “Finding Happiness” (iTunes air date Friday, April 11, 2014). Jonathan wrote “Find Happiness Now: 50 Shortcuts for Bringing More Love, Balance and Joy Into Your Life,” discussed ways to get happy in your individual life right now. He has researched the top methods for individuals finding happiness modalities. He suggest making a list of things you enjoy doing and then calculate how many hours are they spending each month on things they love and hate to do. By employing just a couple of minutes per day towards what and who we love will begin to shift us towards a higher level happy consciousness.

Happiness raises a person’s vibrational energy, and higher level feelings, such as love, feeling prosperous and abundance hangs out in higher vibrational energies. To be happy, is to be thankful and grateful for what you have now. When you can be happy in any circumstance and condition, you are more aligned and in a place of allowing more happy things to easily come your way.

Hanging out in lower vibrational energies, such as in envy, shame, guilt, defeat, rejection, and depression, makes it more difficult to be in a place of allowing things to unfold. When you’re depressed and busy trying to survive, you are likely not in a place of allowing. In low vibe frequencies, people tend to try and control what’s outside of them and feeling a sense of failure when they find that outside forces are out of their control and people are constantly letting them down. It becomes a vicious cycle of trying to dump more and more into feeling better from the outside in, instead of from the inside out.

When you’re happy, you don’t try to control things outside of you – you simply adjust your internal barometer to what you energetically need. Life is an ebb and flow of energies, and they are not defined as good or bad. Too much high flying energy can have you feeling breathless and unable to catch up with even the best of life and too low vibes can have you out of alignment as well.

Many people can’t stand happy songs or people they feel are too “chipper.” They liken these songs and people to being “fake.” Upbeat people genuinely feel happy and invest in cultivating more happiness into their lives. Cynics don’t wear their happiness outwardly and tend to cultivate more experiences solidifying that outward expressions of happiness are fake, while brooding and complaining is being “real.”

For those who don’t like the “Happy” song or understand why people do like it, I am curious as to why. If it is genuinely for taste reasons, I’d like to know that, too. But, I have a feeling it goes a lot deeper than a Top 40 hit being overplayed – I think it represents the belief many of us hold that no one can really be that happy. Well, Pharrell is showing us that we really can be that happy :-).

~Your Curator of all things Inspirational, Kimberly Jo Cooley

 

Oaklandish & Their Trendsetting Tees

Visiting my old high school and standing in the area where I frequently ate lunch.

My mother-in-law bought me the pictured yellow tee shirt and for those who are from Oakland, California, they may recognize the giraffe. Oaklandish.com is a brand of tee shirts of Oakland symbols and phrases. Tee shirts with images, graphics, phrases and labels are big this year (although I never wait for trends to wear comfort clothes). Representing the city I was born and raised in, here’s some cute tee shirts from Oaklandish.com to round out your tee shirt collection.

Oaklandish’s proceeds go to back into the community and a listing of all the organizations and community events they’ve supported is extensive. It’s a feel good situation all the way around! From buying socially responsible clothes to wearing them with your favorite jeans, you’re bound to feel and look good from the inside out. Support your local clothing makers and businesses.

~Your Curator of All Things Beautiful, Kimberly Jo Cooley

 

 

Recommendations and Shout Outs

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Wednesday, April 9, 2014 Recommendations and Shout Outs:

The following podcast recommendations will change your life – what a blessing it is to have these invaluable tools provided by some of the best coaches and spiritual leaders – all for free!

If you know of any podcasts that I should check out and mention on the Recommendations and Shout Out Page, please leave a comment or email me at KimberlyJoCooley@aol.com.

Think, Believe and Manifest Show hosted by Constance Arnold, podcast uploaded to iTunes on Friday, April 4, 2014

Constance’s guest, Simran Singh, author of Conversations with the Universe and Your Journey To Enlightenment offers wisdom on living in a fruitful, abundant world and how each of us is One with God. Simran reminds us that we should suspend our judgment on less desirable situations and then delight in the jewel that was hidden in the struggle. She is articulate, yet speaks plainly and when listening to her, it’s like listening to a channel of God – her words speak right to you.

Simran reminds us that we are connected to everything and what we see now in ourselves and in our lives is an out picturing of what we are thinking and holding onto.

Simran currently is on her 66 show Rebel Road tour, without a plan, all on faith and through the grace of God. The Rebel Road tour’s tagline is “One Mission . . . No Plan . . . To allow the organic unfolding and self-organizing structure of Nature.” Visit Simran’s webpage at http://www.simran-singh.com/. Constance does not disappoint with her deep, southern accent and on point questions.

Flowdreaming, hosted by Summer McStravick, titled “The Other End of the Rainbow,” podcast uploaded on Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Week after week, Summer’s been providing subjects/content to help us realize our true potential and power and last week’s podcast was no exception.

Summer discusses how we are always waiting for “the end of the rainbow” or for the next best thing that is supposed to come, giving our power (which is in the Now) away. She takes a look at supposed external life problems and how these reflect the issues we have with self-intimacy. Summer discusses how the more self-intimate a person is, the better it is when we manifest.

I also highly recommend Summer’s March 25,2014 titled “Wake Up Your Emotions (Emotional Rebirth) and March 19, 2014’s show, “How to Always Make the Right Decision.”

Design Your Life, hosted by Reverend Kevin Ross, titled, “Do What You Love 15 Minutes a Day to Get the Life of Your Dreams,” uploaded Wednesday, March 19, 2014

By dedicating 15 minutes each day towards and activity you love to do will lead you to the life you’ve dreamed about. 15 minutes is not a lot of time to devote to an activity you’re passionate about. You and your future is worth it. I heard this podcast and realized that I have some areas in my own life I could devote just fifteen minutes to each day.

One example of when I did set aside 15 minutes on something I’m passionate about was for my writing. I used to feel like I was tugged in so many directions and there was no time for writing. Now, I write every day and for longer than the few minutes I designated in the beginning of my writing journey. Even a change in jobs a couple of years ago allowed me much more time to writing.

This is a great podcast for inspiration on taking some steps to energize your dreams with small steps that will lead to big leaps.

Shout Outs:

Shout out to my blog readers and supporters for reading my blog and sharing it with others. I am so thankful and humbled by the showing of love and support in this great, big blogging community and I just want to pay it forward by continuing to provide service the best way I know how, which is writing.

~Your Curator of all Things Inspirational, Kimberly Jo Cooley

Overalls Spring 2014

Spring 2014: Striped Forever 21 shirt; Urban Outfitter Overalls; Sole Society Booties and my studded wrap bracelets with rose gold hooped earrings.

 Northern Californian sunshine and overalls – a perfect match. Here’s a look at my seventies inspired overalls – looking forward to finding more ways to wear them.

Big Buddha Python bag.

Seventies inspired with a 2014 twist.

My Urban Outfitters overalls I’ve named Rita.

 

Striped shirts and hoops are timeless.

 

Love the modern, zipper detail on the overalls.

~Your Curator of All Things Stylish, Kimberly Jo Cooley