Just Be and Let Others Be

– exploring ways to be present and non-judgmental in every circumstance and situation.

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Image courtesy of Stuart Miles, published on 04 November 2013, Stock Image – image ID: 100215277, from http://www.freedigitalphotos.net/

When you remove the worry of the future and stop fretting and focusing on the past, you allow yourself and/or the person in your presence to grow up to a higher level of being, just by focusing on the present. Remember, our power lies in the Now. It is what we do and feel in the present that creates the future. Why hold on to past pains and hurts, just to carry it into the future?

When you remain focused on one’s less desirable qualities and the past hurts they’ve afflicted, you are placing your energy to that which you don’t want and living in the past.

Fundamentally, there is a loss of faith when one engages in not letting others be where they are in their journey. Or, not accepting where you are in your own journey.

Allow faith into your heart and trust that all things work out for the Greater Good. That state of being will wash over you and all who come into contact with you.

From a Law of Attraction standpoint, what you focus on is what you receive. If you are focusing on the negative in a person, then more of that will manifest on the physical plane. If you celebrate even the slightest of a positive attribute, more of that positivity will unfold into your experience.

People can change, moment to moment, but it will not be because you’re nagging, begging or fighting them into transition. People change when they are ready to change. That change can happen overnight, or it can take a lifetime or two.

You can always set the space and distance between you and that person, even if you’re married (or divorced and broken up). The space and distance I am referring to is not physical, but instead spiritual and emotional. No longer will you be the instigator of fights over change because you will accept them for who they are and where they are in their journey right now. Or, you will get to a point in your own journey where it’s time to grow on and upward.

If you find you can’t be around a person because their present state is not in alignment with where you want them to be, remember, they have a journey to walk, too. Your focus must ALWAYS be on where YOU want to be. All you can do is hold on to your peace and not lower your vibrational energy to the less desirable, but to maintain the knowing that you and all around you is rising up.

We hear the saying, “live and let live,” but are we doing this with our spouses, children, parents, exes, friends and co-workers? Or, are we sticking our judgmental noses in everyone’s business or up in the air in judgment? Let judgment go – it serves no one and it most certainly will not elevate. It only keeps the energy surrounding that relationship stagnant.

To be in the present means to focus on the very moment that is before you – not the past, not the future.

Infuse love in any and every situation. When you’re having a difficult time with a person or situation, ask yourself, “how can I bring love into this situation?” Love is the cooling salve that heals us all. Self love and Universal love has to be the center of your heart and your experience.

~Your Curator of all things Inspirational, Kimberly Jo Cooley

22 Ways to Manifest More Money in Your Life

All of the outlined tips in this post will bring you closer to experiencing an abundant life today. Cheers to raising our wealth consciousness higher and higher!

Weathering the Storms – Bonus Blog Post on Being in the Flow

Image courtesy of Vlado, published on 08 April 2013  Stock Image - image ID: 100156365, from http://www.freedigitalphotos.net/

Image courtesy of Vlado, published on 08 April 2013
Stock Image – image ID: 100156365, from http://www.freedigitalphotos.net/

You have to be like the tall and mighty palm tree in a storm – rooted in the earth and flexible enough to sway with the wind and weather the storm.

I listened to a Podcast where an author said we should not over analyze what we’re feeling and to just go through the emotions. She said not to over study spiritual books and to let the information land where it may. For the most part I agree, as being in this human existence one will experience all levels of emotions. But, if you find that your reaction is always filled with dread, anger, or depression then you must take some time to evaluate where the source of angst is coming from before you can move easily, joyfully and peacefully through this life. Life happens, but again, if your first reaction is always a negative emotion, that needs to be self-examined.

Here’s an example: A woman cursed out a driver that cuts her off. She is ticked at her boss, pissed at her husband, angry with her children, and every time the phone rings at work, she answers it with a sense of dread. She is always reacting in a negative way. Now, to tell this woman she should just feel the emotions is not serving her. She needs to look at the source of her anger. Is it at her husband because he is not pulling his weight? Or, is it because she is feeling unfulfilled? Or, is she chronically depressed? As you can see, it can be a myriad of “whys” as to the true source of her pain, but unless she does a little detective work and discover what the underlying issue is, she will not be able to flow through life with ease and grace. Ultimately, whatever the reason she’s angry, it begins and ends with her.

If you are angry, allow that emotion to run its course, but don’t wallow in that feeling for hours and days on end. If you are grieving, by all means, allow yourself to feel it through to the other side. If you’re sad, let it run its course. But, overall, you should still have a pervading sense of joy, peace and the knowing that you are taken care of by the Universe. You should still be able to be present in the moment and not always be living in your head and analyzing past hurts and pains or over protecting yourself from potential future hurts.

It is your perspective or how you look at life’s circumstances and situations that help you quickly shift from lower frequency, negative thoughts to helpful, healing thoughts. Every thought and situation you find yourself in has the power to clarify and expose how to get closer to what you really want in your life experience. Be grateful for the awareness of the message you’ve received. Now you know something you did not know before and that alone is worth going through something that is less desirable to get to the most desirable life imaginable.

Your life will be colored with all sorts of shades of emotion: happiness, sadness, and every emotion in between – that’s what makes a beautiful life portrait. By no means am I telling you to slap a happy band-aid on your life or to go to the other extreme of over analyzing your emotions. There is a balance and it is up to you, the steward of your life’s journey, to find that balance.

Going with the flow is two-fold – you are the captain of your ship and steering it in the direction you wish to go, but allowing the storms to come and go, with an inner peace and knowing that all is truly well. Even if you get off course, it is not the end of the world to get back to the flow, in fact, I encourage you to try to enjoy the journey of getting off and on course again.

~Your Curator of All Things Inspirational, Kimberly Jo Cooley

2014 Overalls Overhaul

I have always been a huge fan of  the versatility of overalls. I wore them back in the 1990s, sporting the baggy, carpenter variety (a la Osh Kosh).

2014’s overalls has a place in your wardrobe to allow you to express them in a sophisticated, casual or edgy way.

What Shoes to Wear with Your New Overalls:

Transitioning from winter to spring, booties look best. Spring to summer, wear canvas shoes, such as Vans or Toms. Summer time is great for options. Wedges, flip-flops, Birkenstocks, gladiator sandals or high heels are all for the taking when wearing your overalls.

How to wear your Overalls:

The look is off duty model look than baggy farmer look. Watch the fit and pay attention to how the overalls fit in the rear. It should fit like a comfortable pair of jeans. There are some overalls being made today that are tight – which some ladies can pull this look off well. I will stick to a slightly looser fit so they can be my go-to uniform on weekends. Also, the more distressed, the better. A notable difference from 2014’s overalls versus 1994’s is the cuffed, cropped looked of today’s frocks. Once upon a time, body suits and fitted shirts was the look, then there was the music group TLC’s baggie shirt and overalls look. Remember to bring in edge with your choice of accessories and keep the shirt from being to voluminous as it will make you look like you have extra pounds.

The Dream Team (These finds are great for inspiration and for the ones who wish to splurge):

Image courtesy of http://www.freepeople.com/. $398. Style: 28523728

Image courtesy of http://www.freepeople.com/. $148. Style: 30131585

Image courtesy of http://www.freepeople.com/. $98. Style: 26820217. Multiple denim color choices.

For the Budget Minded Spiritualista:

Image courtesy of American Rag from http://www1.macys.com/shop/. $62. Get 20% off now. I own these lovelies.

Image courtesy of American Rage from http://www1.macys.com/shop/. $64. Web ID: 1322783. 20% off on macys.com.

Image courtesy of Guess from http://www1.macys.com/shop/. $158. Get 20% off now. Web ID: 1290909

Image courtesy of Life in Progress from http://www.forever21.com/. $29. I purchased these overalls as well. Product Code : 2000110704

Image courtesy of http://loveculture.com/. $47. Style: 1000021767

I curated many options for you to pull from, but the best finds are at vintage stores, for a unique, one of a kind look that is budget friendly.

I will be showcasing my overalls style in upcoming blogs, for your styling pleasure and inspiration. I bought a couple of pairs of overalls (shown above) for my own denim collection and will demonstrate different looks as the seasons change.

~Your Curator of all things Stylish, Kimberly Jo Cooley

In the Flow of Life Part 5 of the Alignment Series

I am studying Eric Butterworth’s In the Flow of Life and thought I’d share wisdom found in this book.

I am studying this great text on being in alignment with the flow of life, by Eric Butterworth. You can get this in digital or paperback form on amazon.com or barnesandnobles.com.

Whether you’re feeling good or bad, ask yourself whether or not you’re in the flow of life. Taking a quick moment to gauge where your heart and mental space is will help guide you back to the flow of life. You will begin to recognize your Inner Knowing and be able to discern the difference between outside voices and the still, small voice of your intuition speaking to you.

The Inner Knowing is the same innate knowing birds have when it’s time to fly north or south – they just know. The same innate knowing is in you. You know your authentic self and that you’re in an ever abundant Universe, but sometimes that Divine Wisdom is covered by lies and limiting beliefs that dull that light inside you.

Keep a small journal you can carry with you to notate the blessings you encounter each day, which can be scribed evidence of your alignment with Source.

Use a recorder to capture thoughts, feelings, blog ideas, and passages for the novel I’m writing. Cell phones have app recorders, so the next time you have a moment you want to remember, record it.  

We have to deconstruct old limiting belief structures and rebuild with new beliefs that serve us. Whenever there is a diminishing thought, there is an old belief structure that needs to be torn down. When you find yourself out of alignment with the flow of life, remember all you have to do is take a moment, step back enough to see the situation for what it is – a blessing that is guiding you back to the direction you want to go in. Become the observer of you and your situation.

Here is what Eric Butterworth had to say:

“…If we do not build on the consciousness of our source in the universal flow of life, we try to make the law work for us in the form of the good we desire. Actually, there is no way we can make divine law work for us or for any one. Can we influence gravity to work for us or the sun to shine on us? All we can do or need to do is get into a right relationship with them.

“What is called the “law of healing” is simply the eternal flow of life that is present as an allness even within an illness. The “law of success” is simply the flow of ideas and creativity that can turn failure into productivity and lack into abundance. We do not make the law work through prayer or treatment. Divine law is always working, even if we may be frustrating its flow through our attitudes and actions.”

Divine Law is indiscriminate and it is you or I that has to align to the flow of life – not the Universal Laws bending and changing for an individual person. Just as we’re aligned with the Law of Gravity, we can get our internal navigational system aligned with Law of Attracting, the Law of Allowing, or the Law of Healing.

Prayer transforms our mind, heart and spirit so we can easily align with the Flow of Life. The Flow of Life will continue to move regardless of whether we believe or not and whether we pray or not.

Focus on what it is you that you do want. If it’s world peace, you can’t serve two Gods – peace and war, by wishing (lacking) for peace, while all you are focusing on is the strife in the world. You have to align to peace, to become the peace you desire. On a less grander scale than world peace, you can get into the flow of what you want in your own life and to steer your focus on what you don’t want to what you do want – it is really that simple.

God wants us to recognize our power, because it is then we are able to truly shine His light through our gifts and talents to share with others, so we all can benefit, grow and be utterly happy.

~Your Curator of All Things Inspirational, Kimberly Jo Cooley

Lighting the Way x

I love this blog post because the images and accessories have a Noir Whimsy feel to them. Amazing images.

Maison Bentley Style

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In my dreams there’s an Abigail Ahern chandelier hanging over my dining room table.  Scrap that – we’re talking dreams..they’ll be two! (and a reinforced ceiling) This one has my heart – it’s made from tiny squares of porcelain that would gently glow on a dark winters night. But at £15,050 a light (the extra £50 tickles my sensibilities) it remains firmly on the once-I’ve-won-the-lottery-lust-list…

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There’s also this one (at a mere £2,750) which makes me want to break open the kid’s air-drying clay and get creative.  The truth is Abigail’s whole aesthetic makes me want to squeal..the dark, brooding colours with the unexpected pops of colour, the quirky touches and an underlining sense of humour that spontaneously make me smile with pure pleasure.

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So it’s rather wonderful that she’s teamed up with Debenhams to design a range especially for them…

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I laugh!

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For the study?

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Being in Alignment Hasten Your Blessings Part 4

Image courtesy of Salvatore Vuono, published on 04 May 2010 Stock Image - image ID: 10016066, from http://www.freedigitalphotos.net/

Image courtesy of Salvatore Vuono, published on 04 May 2010 Stock Image – image ID: 10016066, from http://www.freedigitalphotos.net/

Life is easier when you’re in alignment than when you’re not. Not only is it easier for you, it becomes easier for the Universe to be in alignment in providing for you and answering your prayers. When your conduit to God is flowing, then it is easy for you to be an inlet and outlet to all that you are manifesting.

There is a Universal flow and it is moving, no matter what you’re focusing on. Picture yourself standing next to a fast flowing river and all the things you want and don’t want swirl about. When you focus on what you want to glean from that river’s flow, you will become a magnet to it and have aligned with the Universal Mind. What you don’t want is also floating in your flow, and if you’ve aligned to it, it will come to pass in your life.

Be careful not to wish for something, for wishing is only focusing on the lack of not having it already. Instead, know what you’ve prayed and desired is created, waiting for you, just as you are waiting for it. Allow things to come to you in its own time, and trust that it will. It is that trust, faith and knowing that will HASTEN your blessing. That is a powerful distinction between wishing and manifesting.

What you’re manifesting is being created moment, by moment, all trying to get to you as soon as possible.

Imagine a cluttered, clogged conduit – probably difficult for things to move in and out of. Now, imagine a conduit open, pure and clear and how much easier it is for things to move to and through you.

You’ve built momentum going down stream. Now, picture yourself trying to go upstream, against the river’s flow, momentum is slowed to a crawl. Which is easier? You could choose to go upstream (the flow of least desire), or choose to go downstream (the flow of high desire).

Build momentum in the direction you want your life to go. Momentum is like an avalanche – it starts out a small pebble and rolls into a gigantic ball, rolling and collecting everything in its path. Take baby steps toward your desires. Eventually, your baby steps avalanche into something big.  

Ever wonder why celebrities or the wealthy seem to get more and more of what they want? It’s not because they are lucky, it’s because they’ve built momentum in the direction they wanted their life to go. They’ve exercised their faith muscles to the tenth power. That is also why it can be catastrophic for a celebrity on a downward spiral because their momentum is used to moving at a fast rate of speed.

A personal example: I’ve been very distracted at work lately. I kept focusing on the distractions and how I wasn’t getting anything done. I decided to change my focus onto being successful in increasing my productivity. I spent a few moments just feeling what it would feel like to be successful in increasing my work output. The next day, I increased my productivity, even with an occasional distraction. I took the focus away from what I don’t want and shifted it to what I do want.

In matters of the heart, alignment helps you to attract and retain loved ones in your life.  All you have to do is be the love you wish to have and align to feelings of love. When you’re out of alignment, all you can think about are the obstacles in attracting, being compatible and retaining a mate. When you’re in alignment with the flow of life, love (in all forms!) comes easily to you. The solutions to making a relationship work come effortlessly – it becomes easier to go with the flow in relationships.

Your mind is a receptor and effector, receiving information and sending it back out to the Universe. When you’re out of alignment, your thoughts begin to send mixed messages to the Universe, resulting in mixed or undesirable results manifested on the physical plane.

Take a few moments each day to focus in on whether or not you’re in the flow of your life, living out your highest good. If you’re not, then ask yourself “what have I been focusing on?” Shift your focus to the desire and away from the distraction. Have faith your blessings are on their way to you. From there, you are well on your way to experiencing alignment in your flow of life and be ready to see instant results.

~Your Curator of all things Inspirational, Kimberly Jo Cooley

What Does It Feel Like to Be In and Out of Alignment? Part 3

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Image courtesy of dan, published on 25 July 2013 Stock Image – image ID: 100186555, from http://www.freedigitalphotos.net/

To be in alignment with Divine Spirit is a delicious, everlasting and fulfilling endeavor. All things are in sync and there are coincidences abound. Every step you take feels like the natural next one to take and you feel pulled and divinely guided to the next rung in life. Even when your present experience is not desirable, you have peace and a knowing that all things are moving to and for your Greater Good. You have little to no anxiety.

You know how to exercise your forgiveness muscles. You have a strong sense of health and wellbeing, even when others around you are ill in the mind and body.  You find when your mind drifts to something less desirable or unpleasant, it is easy to move it back to creative, positive and loving thoughts. The things and experiences you love seem to come to you easily.

You somehow have all the time and resources to complete the things that make you most happy. Even when the bills aren’t paid or you lose your job, somehow you are sustained and taken care of – your peace is still present, despite your present circumstances. You know that the creative thoughts you have now are aligning you moment to moment, creating a beautiful more aligned future. It is easy for you to recognize we live in an unlimited, abundant universe that is just waiting for you to awaken to ALL of your potential. You are always have an attitude of gratitude and you find yourself deeply appreciative and touched by all the gifts you’ve received. You feel balanced in your giving and receiving of your gifts and talents.

To be out of alignment is a source of great anxiety and uncertainty. You feel at the whims of outside forces and other people’s energies. You have an overriding sense of being out of control. You feel tired or exhausted all the time, as if you’ve worked or thought overly hard on something.

You are constantly chasing something or someone, or it feels like something or someone is chasing you (ie. unpaid bills, lack of money). You’re always catching colds and other illnesses and you find there are always sick people around you. There are some people and situations that you could never forgive or have compassion for. There’s a sense of not having enough, or always feeling a sense of lack in an area of life, such as money, love, or fulfillment. You don’t want to give what you have because you fear it will leave you with nothing. You have a hard time receiving gifts, help and adulation from others.

You feel as if every unlucky thing that could happen always happens to you. Many times you feel like a victim of your circumstances or other’s people’s actions. There is a lack of confidence and faith in yourself and God – He’s let you down too many times or there’s a lot of self doubt about what you can offer this world in exchange for an abundant existence.

Can you think of and share other examples of being in and out of alignment, both mentally and physically?

Part 4 we’ll discuss why being in alignment with Divine Spirit hasten your blessings.

~Your Curator of all things Inspirational, Kimberly Jo Cooley

Why Alignment? Part 2

Image courtesy of Evgeni Dinev, published on 22 July 2010 Stock Photo - image ID: 10019041, from http://www.freedigitalphotos.net/

Image courtesy of Evgeni Dinev, published on 22 July 2010 Stock Photo – image ID: 10019041, from http://www.freedigitalphotos.net/

To be in alignment, is to be in trust with the Universal Life Force that is God. The knowing you experience when you’re in alignment is as natural as taking a breath. But, just as you can hold and block your breath, you can hold and block your alignment. In time, when you’re cut off from breath or from alignment, you suffer.

All we have is the present – the so called past is the past, and the future is being created in this moment. All that is unfolding in your life, from your thoughts to your experiences, begins and ends in your mind, and it is steadily creating your future.

Why bother with being in alignment? You could choose to go against the grain, to go upstream in life. Many of your desires that you created at one time in your life, or that you focus on can be so strong, that despite how much you move upstream, they will manifest. But, over time, your connection to Universal Source gets clogged and you begin to ask if there’s anything more to life. There’s plenty more to life.

You could choose to release into the knowing that all is truly well and that you were sent here with all you need to be in this human experience and beyond.

Have you ever had a situation where you had to throw your hands up in the air, and decided to just “let go and let God?” And, once you let go of the struggle, the answers come to you and you find peace? Well, imagine all aspects of your life feeling like that. You can have a dialogue between you and God all day long, His voice guiding you step by step, after you’ve released to life flow.

God wanted us to be in perfect love and peace while we’re rolling in this human experience. He created us to be able to create our experiences first in our mind. It is imperative to understand the power of the Universal mind and to begin to harness it in your favor.

Part 3 we’ll discuss what it feels like to be in and out of alignment.

~Your Curator of all things Inspirational, Kimberly Jo Cooley

2014 Faded Denim Trends into Focus

Every Spiritualista needs a little bonding time with her son – why not take some selfies on a Sunday afternoon? We both are wearing some of 2014’s denim trends. Check out our photos of our look as well as source images to cop your own faded denim look.

My son and I on a Sunday taking Selfies – ah, the joys of parent/child bonding.

Mom and son, February 2014. Dante’s wearing a Hurley sweatshirt from Pac Sun, some medium washed jeans and a denim chambray shirt with the collars peeking through. I’m wearing a Leith (Nordstrom) jean jacket, a white t-shirt that says “Haute Paris,” floral patterned jeans I scored from JC Penney’s for $13! And, Julianne Hough Sole Society Kita booties. I love gold hooped earrings and my collection of spiked, studded wrap bracelets on my left wrist.

Dante’s serious look. I am digging his Hawaiian sweatshirt.

In a posing kind of mood.

63 degree weather – feels like springtime in Northern California in February. I’m enjoying denim jacket days in the winter.

Jacket off, just my lovely t-shirt from Ross for $6! The best part of my outfit? The great deals on clothing!

Leith denim jackets sold out, but check out Leith’s denim vest for $78.00 – very cute at http://shop.nordstrom.com/

I was lucky and scored some floral brocade jeans from JCP during a clearance sale for $13. I found some close replicas for $25, Life In Progress Skinny Jeans from http://www.forever21.com/

Start your own wrap bracelet collection. This bracelet is $7 and can be found at http://www.forever21.com/

You’ve seen this bootie featured on my blog before. I now own these booties and they’re comfortable with edge. They’re the Kita bootie at http://www.solesociety.com/kita-black.html

~Your Curator of all things Stylish, Kimberly Jo Cooley